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Our aim is to provide resources and inspiration for parents and young people willing to take a tangent from the date-and-heartbreak cycle. It is our hearts’ desire to equip you with tools for courtship. If you will continue to scroll down this page you will find answers to the following questions:

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So, where do I start?
Who are we?

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What is Before the

Before the Kiss is a website about the resurrection of this “new to us” idea of Courtship. Did you know that dating is a relatively new idea? It has been around for less than 100 years. Before then, courtship was the normal way two people came together for marriage.

What we offer here are books, CD’s, and other instructional resources to help you find out more about courtship.

What's New?

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We are updating the website.  With all the craziness that has been going on, regretfully the site has suffered as far as updates are concerned.  We are currently working on version 2.0 of the website with a new look and more resources. This will be a work in progress and you will see the changes slowly as the new pages are developed and implemented.  So check back regularly for the changes.  Thank you so much for your prayers and your support.

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For those interested in supporting this ministry in prayer I would like to make a need known. God has laid a vision on our hearts on what this web site is supposed to be. As we pursue that vision we are constantly running into road blocks. Some of these road blocks I believe, are out right spiritual attacks on the ministry and our family. If you would like to pray for us I would request prayer that this web site will grow into what God has planned for it as quickly as possible with as little hassle as possible, and protection for our family. Thank you.

What is courtship?

Here is my definition of courtship.

Courtship is the process of finding out if it is God's will for a boy and a girl to get married, with direct involvement of the parents before the hearts are given away. It is the ultimate saving of one's self for the man or woman with whom a lifetime will be spent.

In courtship, it is believed that marriage is normal. Sinless man, Adam, needed help, Eve. We also believe that, every courtship will be different. Not all courtships will fit in to a specific model. In courtship the focus is on marriage.

The process

  • The young people and the parents pray for direction.
  • The young people talk to their parents, "Am I ready to get married?"
  • The young people go about life till they meet as friends. Then observe quietly and prayerfully, waiting on God.
  • Young man and young lady should be looking for character traits that they would like in a spouse.
  • The young man approaches young lady’s father to ask permission to court his daughter.
  • The young lady’s father and mother pray. Do they feel it is God's will for these young people to pursue a courtship?
  • Young lady’s parents approach the young lady. What does she think?
  • Dad informs young man of decision.
  • The young people use public situations to get to know each other.
We reach a point where the decision is made by the young people, or the parents, "Is it God's will for them to get married?" If it is not, the courtship is called off, and the process starts over again. If it is decided that it is God's will for the young people to get married…
  • The young man asks the young lady’s father if he can marry her. The father gives his blessing.
  • The young man asks the young lady to marry him.
  • The young lady decides yes or no.
  • Short engagement till wedding.
This is just a short outline to give you the feel on how courtship works. This is only to give you a taste on what courtship might look like. The resources on this website will help to fill in the blanks and expound upon this outline.

So, where do I start?

First of all, for parents, start as young as you can. Teach your children all their lives that courtship is normal. You will be swimming upstream against society. You do not want to wait till your children are 16 and try to change everything that society has taught them about dating.

For young people, it is never too late to start. Even if you have been dating for several years, you can start fresh again with courtship. There are people in their 20’s and 30’s that have stopped dating and have moved towards courtship.

I believe that all the resources offered here are valuable for learning about courtship. I would recommend any and all of what is offered here. With the amount of material we have to offer, it could be a little overwhelming for some. So if you were to walk up to me and ask, “so where do I start?” This is what I would have to say.

I recommend that anyone who is just starting out on a journey to find out more about courtship (young and old), should start off with the book, “The Princess and the Kiss”. This book lays the foundation and attitudes for courtship. It can be found in the courtship section of this website.

From there I would recommend The Courtship of Sarah Mclean and Jeff Mclean: His Courtship. These books lay out courtship in an easy-to-read story form. They are packed full of information about courtship that makes it easier to take in through story form. The Courtship of Sarah Mclean is written more from a girl's prospective, and Jeff Mclean: His Courtship is written more towards a boy's. I would recommend that you read both so that you can see both sides. Both of these books can be found in the courtship section of this website.

From there I would move on to the book Her hand in Marriage. This is a no fluff, give-me-the-facts-about-courtship book. For people who would like to get straight to the point, you might want to skip the Sarah and Jeff books and go straight from The Princess and the Kiss to here.

Then I would move on to the CD How to Evaluate a Suitor. This would be especially for Dads, but I recommend that all involved listen to this. That way you will all be on the same page.

After that I would start with the preparing for courtship section. Here you will find life lessons on how to prepare to meet your life-long mate.

Don’t forget about the related items. The CD by Jill Moore would be wonderful to have playing while you are reading the books.

Who are we?

We are a homeschooling family who believes that there is an alternative to dating. That alternative would be courtship. We have set up this site as a family-based ministry to help spread the word about courtship. For details, see the about us section on this website.

I hope this helps get you started. I also hope that this website will help you find, and prepare for, a life-long love with your future mate. Moms and Dads, it is my hope that this website will help your children start their married life together with the cards stacked in their favor, instead of against them.

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